Sex can be a powerful emotional experience and a great tool for protecting or improving health, and it’s certainly not only for the young. The need for intimacy is ageless. And studies now confirm that no matter what your gender, you can enjoy sex for as long as you wish. Naturally, sex at 70 or 80 may not be like it is at 20 or 30—but in some ways, it can be better. You were addled with anxiety, plagued by concerns over your performance, and worried about the worthiness of your physique during lovemaking. Even if the act achieved the idealized heights of a Hollywood screenplay -- your partner melted at your touch, you thundered like a stallion, you writhed in unison to volcanic climax -- you still harbor suspicions: You’re pretty much certain you’re not getting it as often as everyone else. Lube is one of the best secret weapons for female orgasm. It helps you feel more sensation from touch, and a dab of lube on your clitoris makes it easier for you to have an orgasm during intercourse, by helping your partner’s body glide against yours. You can use organic coconut oil, but keep in mind oil can break down condoms, so this only works for couples using a different form of protection.” Like this article? Sign up to our newsletter to get more articles like this delivered straight to your inbox.

The classic Playboy magazine grad (and later Penthouse Pet) Victoria Zdrok is promoted to professional psychologist in this Penthouse programmer (she has the actual academic credentials to qualify), undoubtedly forgotten but worth a peek. I've been watching many dozens of these Penthouse videos cranked out nearly a decade ago, and they hold up very well, thank you, compared to today's gonzo junk. Experiment. Try sexual positions that you both find comfortable and pleasurable, taking changes into account. For men, if erectile dysfunction is an issue, try sex with the woman on top, as hardness is less important. For women, using lubrication can help. Sex in later life may not be the same as it was in your youth—but that doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, sex can be more enjoyable than ever. As you find yourself embracing your older identity, you can:Discuss new ideas. If you want to try something new, discuss it with your partner, and be open to his or her ideas, too. The senior years—with more time and fewer distractions—can be a time of creativity and passion.

Joyal, C.C. et al. “What Exactly Is an Unusual Sexual Fantasy?” Journal of Sexual Medicine (2015) 12:328. Great sex is in the eye of the beholder, or the be-hander,” says Patti Britton, a clinical sexologist and author of The Art of Sex Coaching. “For some men, it might be the ability to produce fantabulous multiple orgasms in their partner. For other men, it might mean being able to last three minutes. Being a great lover means becoming a great lover to your particular partner, and that requires doing something very difficult: opening your mouth.” If you’re like a lot of men, chances are it wasn’t. At least, the sex wasn’t as good as you think it could have been.Bryan also touched on this topic, sharing that most problems in the bedroom come from communication break downs. I wanted a book that didn’t put expectations on her, but instead valued her and allowed her to explore her sexuality the way she felt comfortable.