Perhaps surprisingly, sex with others was not our priority: for us, it’s about building community. We’ve made some of our closest friends at swingers events, and we hoped that after a week of cruising, that number would grow.

A few years ago, I met this amazing guy. Let's call him Guy A. Fell very much in love with him, he was so kind and sweet. We kissed a few times and hooked up once, but he was starting to see this other girl, so it never went further than that. I was pretty heartbroken over it. That weekend in our house the couple came to our house. After small talk of what to do and what not, his friend took me to our bedroom. His wife and my husband went to another bedroom.Now is the time for SWIFT and DECISIVE action. Consult with your attorney and find out exactly where you stand regarding custody, child support, maintenance, property settlement, etc. Make decisions based on information not emotion. One idea that has stayed with me ever since is that there is no such thing as “normal.” Normal is a social construct. The actions and ways of life repeatedly carried out by the people around us are not always the only way to live. Instead, they are an outcome cultivated by society over time. The other confession was when she was in college she gave her rooomates much younger brother a ** and she stated he shot off gallons of **. She said she was highly turned on to that. I asked her if she always made sure to swallow it all she said Yes!!!I asked her if she remembers how many times she blew him and she said over a dozen times at random places and times. Didn’t want her roommate to find out. She said there hasn’t been any guy that came close to his explosive loads.She loves me showing vids of guys ** huge loads My first few experiences were positive. I had fun meeting new people, and it was interesting to find out what got them into the lifestyle. I was happy to see that everyone in the community was respectful towards each other, which made the sex pleasant. I still love her anyway but I wonder if she doesn’t cheat now because she thinks nobody would have her. Maybe that’s a good thing but I can tell she’s profoundly unhappy. After we had a few couples all those years ago, she started cheating. It was with a guy she had sex with when I had sex with his wife at the swingers club.

She explained sometime after this that at the beginning she was feeling distant from her husband, he was pushing her to have kids and, according to her, being a d---. I wasn't that guy.

So, what are sex parties actually like?

My wife is a wh*re. She cheated on me for several years. We’re in our 40s so maybe almost 2 decades. It’s hard to say. I gave up. She assumed I condoned or let her sleep around with 2 lovers of hers when I couldn’t satisfy her. I actually blamed myself because we became swingers because I wanted to sleep with a blonde woman that swung. I also stupidly thought it would make our sex lives better. It did for her. That’s when I understood. The reason John wanted to try things differently had nothing to do with our love or care for each other. We felt pretty awkward, but we soon realized that this is just natural human behavior. People gravitate toward those they already know. And when you throw in the strong likelihood that you're going to be exchanging fluids with them later on in the evening, then of course, you're going to be a bit more discriminating about who you're hanging out with.