This includes psychological tricks like ‘denial’, and ‘ dissociation’, behaviors like checking your phone every two seconds, compulsive eating, exercise, sex and gaming etc. I liked how throughout the book there were a lot of hands-on experiments for the reader to try and put the theory explained in the various chapters, to use. If there's one thing you take away from this book, it's that you are good enough and that you are loved. This book needs to be read and reread a second and third time until the content is digested and settled into your consciousness. How can it be that a seemingly depressed person, one who shows clinical symptoms, doesn’t respond to antidepressants or psychotherapy?

The main rules of the book are simple: 1) You're gonna feel however you're gonna feel and that's okay. I may revisit the Change Triangle the next time I'm having a hard time, but honestly I don't think laying the points out in a triangle was effective for me (so you go around the triangle?In this model Emotional Defenses include any emotion that you allow yourself to feel, so you don’t have to feel other uncomfortable emotions. This is why we should think not only about cognitive behavioural therapy or medication, but also about our emotions, when addressing psychological suffering. Some of my friends and family keep telling me how they've had traumatic pasts and, okay, perhaps they do but a lot of the time, it's not really big-T "Trauma. I have really been enjoying reading psychology books on different topics, exploring areas I had little knowledge on before and can now speak to with more clarity.

It is filled with examples from her personal life and her work with patients to help you understand the importance of discovering and accepting your emotional responses and how to use that knowledge to better navigate your life. The second way is by looking for your Cs and seeing if you can make a conscious shift into being them just by being aware and applying your emotional energy. This shines a new light on our personal issues, and confirms what I knew intuitively for a while, that most of them come from repressed emotions that we haven't released yet. Tikrai jokia paslaptis, kad mėgstu savęs pažinimo knygas ir tikiu, jog tai kelias į laimingesnį gyvenimą. Man tai fainas ABC, nes jau buvau pasiklydusi, kam tuos jausmus reikia tiksliai įvardinti ir pajusti ir kaip patirti pale gvėjimą.If you grew up with constant drama and excitement around you, for better or for worse, states of calm might feel dead, or boring. Lack of access to these core emotions is at the root of anxiety, depression, and many other problems people suffer from today. Instead, this book just drilled the same message over and over and over again: find your place in the change triangle, understand how your emotions are working against and for you, become calm. I highly recommend this for anyone who’s ever struggled with depression, feeling their emotions, rage, shame, anxiety.

This was a non-fiction book so will be a general review rather than focusing on the usual plot and pacing, characters and writing style. Easy to read, great thematic and it comes with exercises to delve into your mind and evolve on your self awareness.It was interesting to me how patients were able to sense and name their emotions within their bodies; a tightness in their chest, a heaviness in their stomach, an energy moving up or down; or a lightness in their hearts and instinct to smile, or dance. The only reason I gave this book a 2/5 rather than a 1/5 is I liked that Hendel made a distinction between small-t "trauma" and big-T "Trauma. Kurie žmonių jausmai yra baziniai ir kaip kompensuojame, kai baziniai nepriimti: slopinantys (bazinius) jausmai (nerimas, gėda, kaltė) ar gynybos mechanizmai (sarkazmas, atidėluojimas, perfekcionizmas. I also liked the experiment that made me name my points of irrational shame and guilt and de-bunk these myths I have of myself or who I should be.

The healing occurs when we can get past our defenses and secondary emotions, and completely feel and experience our core emotions, so that we can ultimately make contact with our “authentic” self which is characterized by mindfulness, acceptance, congruence and equanimity. Hilary's book is such a great explanation of how to deal with your emotions in healthy ways and in doing so, we can become more integrated, authentic and whole. Tradicinė psichoterapija priešpastatoma šiam metodui pirmiausia efektyvumo, o tuomet ir greičio prasme, bet tuomet pasakojama kaip dirbama metai iš metų su tuo pačiu klientu. The point of the Change Triangle is to help understand what is a defense, what is a secondary emotion, and what is a core emotion.This book is all about how we experience emotions in our body and the importance of processing them so that our brain is integrated. I would have liked to see more exercises, preferably more profound than "take deep breaths and think about how you feel. This is the basis of 'accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy:' it accelerates healing through having an emotional experience in the here and now. For me, well, I found some of it helpful, and I can use those parts, which is what - in my opinion - self-help books are good for.