by Lysa TerKeurst | Nov 6, 2020 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't ForgetI’ve always wanted to invite you to my home, and now, I finally can. When “forgetting” what has been forgiven is challenging, learning from the experience may help some people cope if they encounter that behavior in the future. Those festering feelings can increase blood pressure and inflammation leading to potential heart problems. It also notes that forgiveness may even improve physical health and pain, while unforgiveness may increase heart rate and blood pressure. The concept of “forgive and forget” can be a complex and delicate topic to discuss, particularly for survivors of abuse or trauma.

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If you’re still having trouble forgiving, especially when you can’t forget, there may be some good reasons to continue trying. by Lysa TerKeurst | Jan 7, 2021 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't ForgetTo the girl whose hurt cannot be undone… Forgiving can seem impossible when the other person has not just affected a season of our life but affected us deeply every day since.

While some can learn from the experience, others may forgive to release the past and accept that what happened wasn’t their fault and that no behavior could have changed it. Although we can’t meet in person, I want to have you over (virtually) on November 17th for a conversation about my family’s personal journey with healing relationship heartbreak. The dark side of forgiveness: The tendency to forgive predicts continued psychological and physical aggression in marriage. This adage that we’re all so familiar with might be more properly phrased as, “forgive, but don’t forget.

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And whether you’ve experienced pain through an event or a collection of hurt that built over time because someone wasn’t who they were. by Lysa TerKeurst | Oct 14, 2020 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't ForgetDo you ever feel like relationships are amazing … until they’re not? Forgiveness of other and subsequent health and well-being in midlife: A longitudinal study on female nurses.

A 2021 study also suggests that forgetting is easier with emotional forgiveness than decisional forgiveness or no forgiveness.

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By refusing to forgive someone, you may be holding on to all the anger and pain that their actions might have created. Practicing forgiveness may improve your emotional health and overall happiness, according to a 2016 review. Because this advice has been handed out for ages, you might think it’s rooted in deep wisdom, and it must be easy to do.The study of nearly 1,000 women ages 18 to 40 found that those who emotionally forgave an offense held the person less responsible for the offense than those who decided to forgive. A 2019 study notes that several studies have linked forgiveness to lower levels of depression and anxiety.